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Romancing the Shadow in Later Life with Connie Zweig, PhD

• Dorian Mintzer

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In this conversation, host Dori Mintzer welcomes Dr. Connie Zweig back to explore how “shadow work” can become a powerful inner practice in midlife and beyond. They discuss what the “shadow” actually is, how it forms in childhood, and the many ways it shows up in later life through self‑sabotage, repeating relationship patterns, addictions, moods, and projections onto partners, adult children, and political or religious “enemies.”

Connie explains her practical method of identifying “shadow characters” using thoughts, feelings, and body sensations as cues, then naming and dialoguing with these inner figures to discover their valid, often hidden needs. Through vivid examples, the “foodie,” the inner critic, and the controller, she shows how greater awareness can transform blame into responsibility, especially in long‑term relationships and marriage. She and Dori also explore “shadow marriage” vows, how couples and families can consciously honor each other’s shadow characters, and how elders can use shadow work for reconciliation, forgiveness, and a more peaceful final chapter of life.

The discussion widens to the collective shadow, including how projection fuels polarization, dehumanization, and war, and how leaders like Donald Trump have “weaponized” shadow projection on a mass scale. Connie offers a different vision: inner work as a spiritual and social responsibility, combined with daily contemplative practice, so that each of us contributes less to the darkness and more to the light in this “crazy moment” of history.

About the Guest – Connie Zweig, PhD

Connie Zweig, PhD, is a retired Jungian psychotherapist, author, and teacher known as a pioneering guide to the human shadow across the lifespan. She is co‑author of the classic anthology Meeting the Shadow (new expanded edition) and author of Romancing the Shadow, which presents her method of working with “shadow characters” in individuals, couples, families, and communities.

Her award‑winning book The Inner Work of Age: Shifting from Role to Soul extends shadow work into midlife and later life, reframing aging as a spiritual practice that includes life review, reconciliation, and releasing the victim narrative. In Meeting the Shadow on the Spiritual Path: The Dance of Darkness and Light in Our Search for Awakening, she turns to religious and spiritual communities, illuminating how idealization, projection, and abuse of power create “spiritual shadow” and religious trauma, and how disillusioned seekers can reclaim their own light.

Key Topics We Cover

  • What the “shadow” is and how it forms in childhood.
  • How shadow material erupts as addiction, procrastination, criticism, and repetitive conflicts.
  • Using shadow work in couples, including “shadow marriage” vows and reducing blame in long‑term relationships.
  • Shadow in families, adult‑child relationships, and the life review process in later life.

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